I look in the mirror and I see doubt….

Be yourself; Everyone else is already taken.

— Oscar Wilde.

This is the first post on my new blog. I’m just getting this new blog going, so I will just say, right here… it is the start of my journey with you!

I am going to jump in with something I have struggled with since I was a child, of a woman, who not only was a model, but also had a beautiful, refined British accent. Yup, you got it, my self image was a mess.

My mum was (and still is) glorious. She has style, always looks amazing and has the most loving heart. As a child, in my mind, SHE WAS PERFECT in every way. I, on the other hand was more of a tomboy chasing my big brother around… much to mum’s disappointment.

When I rocketed into my pre-teens, I realized, quite unexpectedly, that I was not super model material 🤦‍♀️ (wait what?). I had thick mousy brown curly hair, at a time when sleek straight hair and the Dorothy Hamill cut was in. I tried the Dorothy Hamill cut and let’s just say, the only thing it got right was the ducks butt from behind… but hey, at that age you just don’t want to miss the latest fashion trend. I had glasses and braces to complete my wonder-kin looks above my shoulders, and below I was a girl who fit into HUSKY tough skin jeans… oh and mum had this lovely British nick name for me …”Sausage”… didn’t help my image AT ALL!!!

But here’s the thing. For all that worry and doubt, externally, it helped me build internal confidence. I was smart and did well in school. I had a way of putting those fears and doubts on how I looked to the back of my mind, when I stepped out of the house. Somehow, I made a choice to realize that I had to work with what I have, and I think that is largely because of the encouragement I received from my mum, my teachers, my Brownie and Girl Scout leaders, and many other moms, which helped me build confidence and resiliency.

I think I also made a choice, internally at some point, now that I look back, that I had no control over how I would turn out on the outside, I could only control how I evolved on the inside. Sounds oh so mature, but it really wasn’t. I am pretty competitive and I knew I wasn’t going to win any beauty contests, so I competed with my mind. I focused my energy on making friends, even with those beautiful popular girls. I worked on my humor, and that drew people in. I worked on my positivity to lift others up. We need to help girls coming of age to embrace their God given strengths, to be strong and embrace who they will become, not get pulled into a world of negative self image.

Looking back now, I have been chunky, plump, skinny, thin, and anywhere in between. I grew into my nose, ears and my hair finally worked itself out. My external self, ebbs and flows, but my internal light is where I have to remind myself to focus, otherwise I fall into that merry go round of self doubt. And that is a frame of mind none of us can afford.

Choose to be your best self every day, and share positivity. Look for girls or women that are struggling with their image, or displaying a lack of confidence. Help them lift up and grow stronger. It doesn’t matter what you look like outside, the packaging could be amazing, it is what is inside that makes all the difference!

Shine brightly!

Samantha

Mum, Circa 1960

Published by Samantha

I am a fierce advocate for women, and men, especially in business. I want you bright wonderfully talented people to find your voice, be confident and change the system from within.

10 thoughts on “I look in the mirror and I see doubt….

  1. Wow….your words remind me so much of my teen years when my dad would say people look at your outside first before they decide if they want to know you. Thanks for continuing to be an inspiration to all of us! WOOHOO!

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  2. I’ve always admired your openness and transparency and value your point of view. I’m so glad you have opened yourself up in this new forum so that others might have the opportunity to learn and grow from knowing you, as I have. Brava, Sam!

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  3. This is a great post! Your openness is your superpower. I am going to share this with my 12-year-old daughter, it’s such a powerful story. You are a positive role model for all ages. Keep up with your blogging, it is inspirational.

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  4. Sounds truly from the heart and made me cuddle my 2 year old after reading this and I won’t call her sausage 😇your moms pic is gorgeous and you have a blessed heart. Congrats on your blog

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  5. I always knew that there was a great writer within. What an inspiring post. At a time when so many people struggle with the concept of body positivity, you bring into focus the beauty and empowerment that comes with self love. Very nicely done!! #lovetheskinyou’rein

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  6. It’s interesting you posted this today. I was having this very conversation with my niece Alex and how her upbringing influenced her self esteem.

    I’m glad you put it out there…your truth.

    Rock on sis!

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  7. Beautiful post Samantha! Thank you for sharing this very personal story! Truly inspirational! Kudos to you on your blog. I hope you touch and make a huge difference in the lives of many through this platform.

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