10 Ways to Shine Brightly!

Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.”

Helen Keller

Starting to Shine…

When I started putting out daily positive messages and starting this blog, I was clear in my intent, and that was to uplift those around me in any way I could.

I was constantly barraged with negativity, in the news, my social channels, and at work. The only peace I seemed to have was at home, where I refused to let negativity reside.

One day, as I was pondering how I was managing to feed positivity at home but not anywhere else, I realized that I had very different boundaries and expectations.

It was as if the only thing I could control was my home life, and everything else was a wasteland of negativity. It bandied about without a care, like some amorphous monster you battled daily.

As I began, it was clear to me that every day, in addition to positivity, I should remind people to shine brightly! To cast off the dullness of life and reconnect with their inner sparkles. Some may think the idea of internal sparkles a bit crackers, but if you look deep, it is there. It wants to be fed, and it wants to blaze forward.


I was so worn down by negativity; I honestly wasn’t sure I could make a difference. But I knew that my core wiring was optimistic, positive, and affirming. I had to try, and the first step was believing it to be true before it ever was.

I visualized a positive impact. I awoke with positive energy, and the messages were there. It was just welling up waiting to be put to a post. It was quite remarkable.

I kept at it, day after day, and slowly, people started mentioning that they had seen one of my posts and how it positively started their day. It was so affirming and humbling to hear, and see the positive impact that I had dreamed about making, be realized.

10 Ways to Shining Brightly…

  1. Decide to be positive and stick to it. Be mindful and listen to your self-talk and the talk of others. If you are negative, consciously correct yourself and redirect to positive. It will feel very uncomfortable at first. Your inner monologue will be quite stilted. “This is the worst,” Wait Full Stop reframe, “this could be an interesting direction.”
  2. Disconnect, unfollow, banish all negativity on your social media channels. This includes: News that is biased, negative people, body shaming, people that complain as their craft… you get the point. For every 1 you unfollow, choose two positive topics or people to follow. This will improve your ratio of positivity.
  3. Set clear expectations with your family and friends. We all have that one person that if they saw a beautiful bouquet, they would say something like, “shame to waste the money on what is only going to die.” Takes the stuffing right out of you. PURGE the negative people from your life
  4. Set clear expectations at work. We all have those negative co-workers that love to complain, gossip, and stand about in a gaggle of toxicity. They will work hard to pull you in. You want to be polite and fit in, so you join in and then feel horrible after 3 minutes. ESCAPE at all costs!! The damage to your psyche is not worth it. Find the positive group, they are out there, but albeit in a smaller group.
  5. Smile! It is very simple; when you smile, you feel better; those around you feel better and more positive energy will be created.
  6. Say Thank You. Appreciate everyone’s contribution and find ways to say thank you and well done. Again it is fuel for positivity!
  7. Affirm others. Everyone likes to feel valued for what they do. In addition to thank you, find ways to boost others up with authentic feedback. “Mary, that was such a great presentation. I can tell how hard you worked on it, and I appreciate the effort”. I was reminded recently of the concept to fill other people’s buckets. It is so simple and conveys so much.
  8. Celebrate. Much like thank you and affirmation, celebrate success. Small wins are enormous wins on the way to building the momentum needed for a massive win. It will catch on. One day I told a team #woohoo for getting a difficult project task completed. It wasn’t the largest, but it was the first small win. It stuck, and it became a fun acknowledgment, and something teams would want to hear.
  9. Radiate Positivity. The more positive you are, the more positive everything you do will be surrounded by positivity.
  10. Kindness. Choose to be kind in all that you do and say. What we say, how we say it, and the way we act impact others lives. Impact them with kindness.

I want to dig a little deeper into #7 Affirmation and the notion of filling buckets. When I learned this concept, it was focused on filling others buckets with positivity, encouragement, and kindness. And the more you filled the bucket, the sooner it would overflow and spill back onto others and even yourself.

In a business setting, it can be hard to fathom a concept like that, because of the need to achieve, hit high goals, and navigate office politics. However, you can do all that and have a higher chance of success if you look for ways to lift others up and build thriving teams and relationships.

Everyone wants to be positively encouraged in some way.

Final Thoughts

So much of our lives are influenced by the choices we make and the filters we use to see those choices.

It is a choice to shine brightly every day because, in that, you are choosing not to be negative. It is a choice to lift others.

Sometimes the most seemingly innocuous things become the ones that stick. I never thought Shine Brightly would become my tagline so many months ago, as I typed it for the first time. I just felt right. But as I said my goodbyes to my old job in a post, so many people posted a comment with “continue to shine brightly.”

Don’t only stand in the sun, create the bright warmth that sunlight brings and Shine Brightly!


Transformation is a Journey

“Transformation isn’t sweet and bright. It’s a dark and murky, painful pushing. An unraveling of the untruths you’ve carried in your body. A practice in facing your own created demons. A complete uprooting, before becoming.”

Victoria Erickson

The Awakening…

It wasn’t too long ago, that I lost my sight for where I wanted to go in my career. It was so unlike me as my goals had always been clear and my journey laid out in front of me.

But my journey became clouded as I started to doubt myself, doubt my capabilities and doubt my capacity to lead and grow. I also let negativity seep in and began to believe what some people, who did not have my best intent in mind, were saying to me about my limitations or their perception of me.

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Becoming Who You Are Meant to Be …

They both listened silently to the water, which to them was not just water, but the voice of life, the voice of Being, the voice of perpetual Becoming.

Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha

Adjusting to a world that has changed …

In this new world of social distancing, we have all had a lot of time to experience life differently.

For some, it is more hectic, with children being home and spouses underfoot 😉, however it has also been a time where we find ourselves adjusting and becoming more.

Gaining more time, without a daily commute, has allowed me to be more active, focus on gratitude, and get in some expanded meditation. I also have realized that in this pocket of time, we can explore who we are without rushing from one thing to another.

Taking time to breathe…

Although the conference calls are back to back and the pace around me is still chaotic, reaping the time I have gained and committing it to self-reflection, I have learned some new things about the journey of life. I am embracing moments to expand and just breathe.

Some reflections:

  1. Starting the day with gratitude boosts positivity, and resilience.
  2. Meditation connects you to your inner core energy and provides insights to how you can unlock that energy in a positive way
  3. Motivation is intrinsic and extrinsic. We need both. And we need to be a motivator and motivated.
  4. A flexible mind (attitude) is a path to mental wellness.
  5. Strong, unshakeable faith is a solid foundation of strength. We can plan, plan, plan away our lives and yet, all of that can be tossed aside in life-altering events.
  6. When we genuinely face ourselves and cast away the self-doubt and the worry, we can become so much more.
  7. Always be open to growing… we can become more through experiences and interactions with others.

Life is a journey that is riddled with potholes. Some we can swerve around, some we have to bump through.

Unlocking who you are …

Knowing who we are and what we are capable of becoming, takes time with ourselves, and in-depth internal exploration. It also requires us to face ourselves in a clear way accepting our strengths and areas of growth.

Many times in my earlier years, I often looked to be validated by others. I never realized how unsustainable and fleeting that was.

Until I shifted my mindset and first learned to love myself, for who I am and what I am capable of, was I able to build that strong foundation of faith and self-love.

Final thoughts

We all have our internal struggles. Things that hold us back. Experiences that molded us. We can choose to let those experiences hold us back or become the momentum of change for what we can become.

When we unleash our inner fire, our inner core energy, and ignite the world around us with positivity and care, it can be a magnificent experience.

Be authentically you, love yourself, become who you were created to be, and Shine Brightly!


Finding Peace in Times of Uncertainty

“You have brains in your head,

You have feet in your shoes.

You can steer yourself in any direction you choose.”

Dr. Suess

Extraordinary Times…

These certainly are extraordinary times that we are all navigating.

Without prior experience and a lack of certainty, it is hard to find peace from constant worry, anxiety, and even depression thinking about what might happen next.

As an extrovert, a lack of social interaction, in person, is very hard. It weighs my energy down. And it is easy to feel depleted.

Therefore, I have found other ways to feed my energy.

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Giving Yourself Permission for Self Care

Self-care is giving the world the best part of you, instead of what’s left of you. -Katie Reed

I originally posted this on September 2019 and given the world pandemic, I felt this was much needed again.

I am grateful that these posts are being so well received. I appreciate the encouragement and the feedback on how these can get better. Thank you for taking the time to read, like, share and comment. I am still learning a lot on how to do these, like turning on ability to comment 🤦‍♀️. Now onto the story…..

The first step is recognizing you’re out of balance…

I have a confession. I am a recovering workaholic. You know that person, always online, perpetually busy, working towards unending timelines, deadlines, not taking time to enjoy the ride. The one that, from afar, looks so successful and joyful. The genuinely determined one, fueled by grit, but ignoring the real refueling energy, by taking time out of the hustle to take care of themselves. Yup, that was me for a very long time. My teams saw it long before I did, and I should have taken a clue when they gave me a cute book on being a workaholic. Looking back, I was just too busy to get it. 🤦‍♀️

Somehow, I got so focused on everyone and everything else, I left myself behind. I wasn’t even on my radar. Just too busy. I also had an executive coach, some years ago, suggest that I start meditating for 10 minutes a day. I thought she was crazy. How can you possibly be still for 10 minutes?

And on top of that, focus on breathing. What new age babble was that? I clearly wasn’t ready. And although I was growing in experience and learning new things, I wasn’t growing to my full potential.

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