Self-care is giving the world the best part of you, instead of what’s left of you. -Katie Reed
I originally posted this on September 2019 and given the world pandemic, I felt this was much needed again.
I am grateful that these posts are being so well received. I appreciate the encouragement and the feedback on how these can get better. Thank you for taking the time to read, like, share and comment. I am still learning a lot on how to do these, like turning on ability to comment 🤦♀️. Now onto the story…..
The first step is recognizing you’re out of balance…
I have a confession. I am a recovering workaholic. You know that person, always online, perpetually busy, working towards unending timelines, deadlines, not taking time to enjoy the ride. The one that, from afar, looks so successful and joyful. The genuinely determined one, fueled by grit, but ignoring the real refueling energy, by taking time out of the hustle to take care of themselves. Yup, that was me for a very long time. My teams saw it long before I did, and I should have taken a clue when they gave me a cute book on being a workaholic. Looking back, I was just too busy to get it. 🤦♀️
Somehow, I got so focused on everyone and everything else, I left myself behind. I wasn’t even on my radar. Just too busy. I also had an executive coach, some years ago, suggest that I start meditating for 10 minutes a day. I thought she was crazy. How can you possibly be still for 10 minutes?
And on top of that, focus on breathing. What new age babble was that? I clearly wasn’t ready. And although I was growing in experience and learning new things, I wasn’t growing to my full potential.
I grew up in a family with traditional values. As an immigrant, and being in a melting pot neighborhood, those traditional family roles were all that I experienced. There was tons of diversity in ethnicity and cultures, but not in traditional roles in the family.
My family wasn’t completely traditional, in the way others were, because of my mum being a single mum. My dad left before I was born. Even so, she grew up in a traditional family, so that came through in the expectations that were set.