Advocating for Ourselves and Others!

This week’s blog explores how to advocate for ourselves and others. This is not an easy thing to do; it seems to be getting harder and harder.

I am going to break this into three parts: advocating for your health, for yourself and for others.

Over the past two months, I have had several things occur that have brought this topic to the forefront. I hope that this will help you be more comfortable with speaking up and advocating for what you believe is important and right.

Advocating for your health…

There is no one more in tune with how you feel than you. Whether it is physically or emotionally, you have the best insight period.

However, we often forget that and abdicate that knowledge to our doctors and the overall healthcare system when we are ill.

Over the past two months, no fewer than three people have been seeing a healthcare provider for not feeling well, and after years of bringing it up, it was found to be cancer. Although the details were different, the pattern is the same.

These people are smart and are strong advocates, generally, but when it came to their health, they deferred to the medical system, that in their mine had more knowledge.

I completely get that. I have been there, as well. I had a doctor tell me my exhaustion was due to depression when I pushed back and stressed that I wasn’t depressed he tried to talk me into it. It turned out I had a Vitamin D deficiency. Big difference.

What I learned is that the healthcare system and our doctors are overtaxed, and they are trying hard to understand your symptoms and fit it into their experience and knowledge. It isn’t intentional. They want to heal you. They are passionate about that. However, they are overwhelmed and overworked. Therefore, you can get a better outcome if you advocate and treat the interaction as a collaboration towards health.

Next time you’re having an ongoing issue or even a cold, you know best how your feeling against your typical wellness. Opening your mind to collaborating with your medical professional and asking questions will help get a better outcome.

If a medical professional brushes it off, stand firm, and advocate for yourself. Explain that this is not normal, and you need help finding answers. Also, educate yourself on symptoms and even treatments.

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Finding Your Way Back …

When you’ve been lost as I have,” he once said, “you get good at finding your way home.”

Emily Henry, A Million Junes

I am excited about 2020 and would love to get input on what topics most interest you. Your contribution is extremely valuable to me. Please leave a comment or send me a message. Also, if this blog might be meaningful to someone else, please share! Thank you so much.

So many people I talk to are lonely, unhappy, sad, facing difficulties, searching for connections, and have had many hard experiences.

I surely have had my share and will most likely have more.

As I get older, I am realizing more and more that finding joy every day is so essential to a healthy life.

It is freaking hard to find joy when your heart is breaking, and you’re facing something so hard that it nearly breaks you. I have been there so many times and have almost crumbled under the weight.

However, as the days passed and distance crept in, the pain lessened, and those that stayed with me during the pain brought me back to a place of joy.

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Breaking the Cycle of Imposter Syndrome

I am not a writer. I’ve been fooling myself and other people.

John Steinbeck

With 2019 behind us, we might as well jump into 2020 with both feet and take on the topic of Imposter Syndrome.

Really excited about 2020, adding collaborations with some really amazing women, and hopefully I can talk some guys into this as well, to have one guest post every month. They will be sharing their experience and insights with you all. Stay tuned as I get that going. Hopefully will have my first one this month!

I am still learning a lot about social this and social that… and I haven’t figured out how to track across all the channels, if there is a guru out there that can help me understand that… I would be so grateful. Please DM me 🙌

A big THANK YOU for continuing to read and encouraging me to continue… bring on 2020.

Where did this come from?

I have been thinking a lot about why women struggle with Imposter Syndrome and what drives this mindset.

It undermines our vision and belief in our success and makes us feel lucky that we achieved anything at all.

And when I talk about success, I don’t mean just career success. I mean success in everything we do.

Our heads swirl with all the reasons why we won’t be good enough, or why we can’t do whatever, and the weight of the worry is absolutely crushing. No matter our IQ, past success, grades in school, degrees under our belts, we are riddled with self-doubt. Ugh 😩!

As I have been looking into this, I stumbled upon a realization that men also feel like imposters. Huh? 🤔

I seemed to have had an unconscious bias that this was only an issue for women, and men just never felt that way.

They appear to be so outwardly confident, and I haven’t met many men who seemed to lack confidence, but I realize now that it was due to my lack of looking at this as a gender-neutral issue that was causing the blind spot.

I also learned that many of the most outwardly confident people have felt this way.

Some of this lack of perspective seems to be a lack of dialogue around this topic. It feels like a stigmatizing issue; I mean, who wants to tell anyone they are not Uber confident. It reminds me of how mental health issues are still stigmatized.

All this to say, this is written from the perspective that both men and women suffer from this syndrome, and the tips here can apply to both sexes.

I hope that this will start to open the dialogue between the sexes to explore the underlying motivations and insecurities that cause this mindset, even with different catalysts.

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Saying Goodbye to 2019 with Gratitude

“I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness – it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.”

Brene Brown

Out with the old and in with the new!

This is the last post for 2019, as next Friday will be 2020. I am looking forward with continued optimism and looking back with an abundance of gratitude.

I can’t believe how fast the years seem to go by in what appears to be a blink of an eye. As a child, we think it goes by so slow, we are bored and can’t wait to grow up.

As I reflect on 2019, I thought it would be a nice end of the year to share what I am grateful for this year.

I have learned so much and grown through the generosity of so many amazing people.

I have met some wonderfully positive people that lift others up, giving generously of their time, talent, and experience.

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Gearing up for 2020…Let’s Go!

Everybody has goals, aspirations or whatever, and everybody has been at a point in their life where nobody believed in them.

Eminem

Reflecting on 2019 and the passing of a decade...

We are in the final days of ending the year, but also ending a decade. When you look back on the last ten years, have you achieved your goals? Have you discovered your passion or your inner fire?

I can’t say that I have achieved all I set out to do in the past ten years. I got lost somewhere in there along the path of life. I think about five (5) years into the decade. 🤦‍♀️

It wasn’t until mid-2018 that I began to lift my head and find my way back towards what I am passionate about.

I took out some old personality profiles, did the soul searching thing, and realized that helping others shine and unlock their true potential, is my passion.

So why not engage on a much bigger platform than just at work and pursue my passion more directly to help more people shine?

We all need more than one avenue to build our energy, and although I was excited about the work I was doing, it wasn’t completing the whole of me.

It is so easy to get sidetracked. To get into the day to day, feeling like activity is progress when, in reality, it is just activity.

My core wiring is usually so over the top goal-oriented that I was surprised, to realize, how I had unconsciously been setting small localized goals and hadn’t been pushing harder for larger, more expansive ones. What a fake-out! 🤦‍♀️

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