Disruption is either going to happen to you or because of you
A little secret
Here’s a little secret ya’ll, without reinventing, reimagining and continual learning, the world is moving by you. You can’t sit still.
It is kinda scary, thrilling and really exhausting at times. However, if your not exponentially learning and growing, your losing your relevancy in your career. That might be a downer for some, although I hope it will be equally exciting for others.
This week is focused on taking time for YOU! Whether your just starting out, midway through your career or post career, exercising your ol’ bean is one of the keys to longevity and fulfillment.
And one day she discovered that she was fierce, and strong, and full of fire, and that not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears.
This journey continues fueled by my passion for equity and Inclusion. For women and men to increase the benefit of each genders strengths.
I continue to be encouraged and feel lots of support for this blog and ever so grateful that you continue to choose to invest your precious time reading. I also am humbled when people share that these messages are helping them through what ever they are facing, and I didn’t even know they knew about this blog or my daily positive messages. It is heart warming because my desire is to help us all not only thrive, but bring conversations to the forefront as well as try to bring a bit more joy and happiness into peoples lives. Like, Comment, Share and Follow me for positive daily messages.
My Personal Confidence
In my prior post “Business School isn’t for Girls”, I promised a post on the topic of the Confidence Gap. Lately this has come under some debate whether this, in fact, truly exists.
When I heard about this being controversial, it moved this up in the queue of topics I would write about.
When I was a kid, I never seemed to lack confidence in my abilities. I would put in the hard work, was extremely curious and had intrinsic belief that I really could do anything I wanted to. It wasn’t until my last year in High School that my confidence was truly tested. I almost fell prey to someone else’s view of my potential.
With the help of my amazing mum, I was restored in my confidence.
I continued to believe anyone could achieve what they set out to do. It would take hard work, resilience and courage.
Whether in my early career or later when life through me curve balls and the universe seemed to be laughing at me, I still kept confident and determined, and stubborn to believe I would succeed.
“Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
This week is a little different in that it isn’t about a story but more of a reaction to the way I am seeing successful women being characterized. So sit back and read on, and perhaps you will comment and share your perspective.
I continue to be so impressed and grateful to those that are giving of their precious time to read these posts and also helping me get better at this endeavor.
Words Really Matter…
To me, words absolutely matter and should be chosen with care, especially when you are giving them to an audience that will have their own connections to the words. We all have our own visual imagery when we hear words. The imagery is based upon our own experiences and our own impressions.
So as a disclaimer, when I see headlines and read stories, I have to work hard to not come into it with my presumptions or assumptions that derive a conclusion before I even begin. That is really really hard. So I ask that you put aside all these things, as you read this post until the end. Then reflect and see if you agree or not. There is growth for all when we spend time sharing our different ideas and notions.
Another week another blog post. I am so thankful that you are reading this. If you like these posts, please like, comment and share LoudlyImperfect.com with others. These stories are to celebrate the imperfection we all have and our journey to be okay with that.
Feedback can be confusing…
I don’t know about you, but I have received a wide range of professional feedback. Some of it has been really helpful and constructive. However, some of it, not so much. Many times I have been left confused and feeling like I have a separate playbook, or set of standards to be met. (I started my career in the 80’s, so much of my career has been in male leadership models).
The feedback has been so wide ranging, that when I have quietly reflected on it, there are times when I can’t tell if the feedback is really about me or a reflection of the person sharing it. 🤔 I would keep turning it around and think “how could I be viewed so differently?” Also, “why are the standards different in what I observe as okay for others?”
I happen to be someone that overthinks when I get feedback. I turn it round and round. I seek additional feedback from my peers, colleagues and network to see if it rings true or a blind spot. I think deeply about whether it would accentuate a strength or just waste time on fixing something that is just not my baileywick.
Getting in balance is not so much about adopting new strategies to change your behaviors, as it is about realigning yourself in all of your thoughts so as to create a balance between what you desire and how you conduct your life on a daily basis. Wayne Dyer
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The work life balance conundrum…
A few years back, maybe more than a few 😉, companies started talking about work-life balance. Top leadership gurus added it to their talk tracks. Yet, As time marched forward, more and more employees had less and less work-life balance due to a growing demand of “always on” and working globally.
The more we talked about it, the more out of balance I felt. Someone was always working somewhere in the world and emails, texts, tweets, Facebook, and well every other type of e-tool, was pinging my attention.
For those of us hustling to build a career, this just exacerbated the situation. It also caused me a lot of stress because I believed it was achievable, however, I couldn’t find a way. I was failing which weighed on me greatly. As I shared last week, being a workaholic only added to my frenzy to stay ahead, be relevant and put my personal life on a low simmer on the back burner, awaiting the day I figured it out.
I am amazed my husband was so chill about it. He works a lot too, building his career, so maybe it was how we both looked at being supportive of each other 🤷♀️.